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The Loneliness of an Eco-positive Lifestyle

Posted on June 6, 2022June 3, 2022

I am very confident that my sustainability journey and eco-positive lifestyle make me the happiest version of myself. But there is one dark side of this eco-positive lifestyle. This dark side does not have much to do me, but it has everything to do with the people surrounding me. Today I want to open up about this dark side, because I like to be brutally honest on this blog. I’ll tell you about: the loneliness of an eco-positive lifestyle.

Happy

Before I talk about the loneliness and what I mean by that I want to make something clear. I am happy. I am privileged and I have an amazing life. This has not changed due to my eco-positive lifestyle. In fact, I think an eco-positive has made me much happier. I live in line with my values and I live a life full of compassion. That makes me grateful every day and it gives my life purpose. I also enjoy sharing more about this lifestyle and thriving to do better every day. So don’t take this post the wrong way, I am happy and this is partly due to this eco-positive lifestyle.

Only One

Off to the loneliness that comes with this eco-positive lifestyle. This is going to sound arrogant, but I don’t mean it that way. The thing is: I don’t know anyone like me. I mean this in the sense of an eco-positive lifestyle. Of course no two persons are alike. But I do not know anybody in real life that lives a eco-positive lifestyle. And I barely know any people who have committed to one of the things that I have committed myself to. Not in a moderate way, eating less meat or buying secondhand clothing sometimes. No, I mean people who are as dedicated as me. And that can be in just one aspect of my eco-positive lifestyle.

But as I said, I barely know someone who is like me in that sense. I know two vegans, one of them not so well actually. I do not know anybody in real life who decided to stop flying. Nobody who took the pledge to stop buying fast fashion. Same goes for stuff, nobody in real life who took the pledge to barely buy any stuff new. None of my friends go to climate protests. Not one single person who takes a zero waste lifestyle as serious as me. I know that people around me try in some ways, but there’s just nobody like me. That feels lonely.

Watching

The fact that people around me do not live an eco-positive lifestyle (I dare to say that nobody I know lives within the earth’s capacity) is saddening and I have to watch their behavior. This is extremely painful if I have to be honest. Especially on the end of a holiday I notice that this takes a toll on my mood. The most painful thing for me personally is to watch people I love eat dead animals. Especially on holidays where I see their dietary patterns from up close is painful. They eat dead animals on a daily basis.

This is painful because I know the dark side behind it. I have seen footage of slaughterhouses so often and know what’s behind those meals. When I see people eating dead animals I can’t help but to think of that individual who was so terrified because they were abused and killed. And that goes with most aspects of this eco-positive lifestyle. Fast fashion is a good example too. When I see flatmates or good friends show their new clothing, which is fast fashion 99% of the time, I feel pain for the individual (child) who is almost starving to death, working 12 hours a day 7 days a week under horrible conditions to make those clothes. This also goes with jewelry, smoking, flying, cars, etc.

Not with me

You get my point. It’s all just horrendous to watch because I know the truth behind all these products or the behavior. But there’s another thing that makes me feel lonely. I know how urgent all these problems are. The climate crisis is real and killing people already. But seeing how nobody in my own circle adapts to these problems to change things and show compassion is astounding. Hearing family member say that they’re not the ones who should change, but how it’s always someone or something else is saddening (I wrote more about that responsibility here). It feels like I am the only one taking matters serious and the only one who is actually doing everything they can to change things. I am not perfect either, but I try my best.

not alone

But I know, I am not alone. I have so many examples and people with me in this fight. However, almost everybody that is with me I only see online. It’s not my personal circle. No friends or family. But maybe that’s also my fault. Whenever I make new friends I just go by how I feel around people. Whether we have fun together and make effort for each other. But I don’t know if I want to change that. I love my friends. And I also love my family.

Maybe I should look for more friends inside the sustainability movement. But right now I am happy with my circle and I don’t want any more friends who live at a 2 hour distance from me, because I already have enough of those haha. So maybe it’s my own fault too, I don’t surround myself with people who take sustainability and compassion as serious as me. The price I pay for that is loneliness.

Do you experience loneliness due to your eco-positive lifestyle?

Yours sincerely,
Romee

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Hi! My name is Romee Hoeksma and I am on a journey to an eco-positive life. An eco-positive lifestyle is a lifestyle in which I have a more positive than negative impact on the beautiful planet earth. On this blog you can follow my journey to a life with only positive impact. At this blog you can find all sorts of things, from tips to recipes to personal experiences, but most of all fun (I hope!). I write about how I want to change the world, but don’t look at it as if I’m judging you. If anything, I like responses from my dear readers the most, so don’t hesitate to contact me or respond to any of my posts!

Yours sincerely,
Romee

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Ik gebruik al jaren een bamboe tandenborstel, die van Humble Brush 🎋. Naast dat hun product duurzaam is, doen ze ook wat moois met de winst. Dat maakt een product nou echt eco-positief! Je leest meer over poetsen met bamboe op mijn blog, via de link in mijn bio. Vandaag op de blog: iets waarbij de relatie met eco-positief leven wat indirect is: diëten. Januari is dé maand waarin veel mensen weer aan het diëten slaan en daarom leek het me goed om deze post nog net op de valreep in januari te delen. De blog van vandaag gaat slechts over één van de vele nadelen van diëten: het leidt ons af van wat echt belangrijk is 🧐. Weten waarom ik dat denk? Lees dan nu het artikel via de link in mijn bio. Ik ga dit jaar weer de challenge aan om de winter door te komen zonder de warming aan te zetten. Hiervoor ging mijn essential, een warmwaterkruik 💦, kapot. In deze reel laat ik je zien hoe ik een ‘nieuwe’ tweedehands kruik kocht. Vandaag te lezen op whenateengoesgreen.com: een inspirerende documentary over Greta Thunberg: I am Greta. Een documentaire over hoop, maar vooral over doorzettingsvermogen 🔥. Lees het nu via de link in mijn bio. Meer vegan producten in de schappen, yay! Gisteren probeerde ik voor het eerst de vegan lentil tikki masala saus van Patak’s 🧑🏼‍🍳. Zie in deze reel wat ik ervan vond. Vandaag verscheen er een nieuw artikel op mijn blog over: 5 dingen die ik niet koop. Want we denken vaak dat we dingen écht nodig hebben, maar vaak is dat niet zo 🧠. Check het artikel via de link in miijn bio. Vorige week verscheen er een artikel op mijn blog over alles wat ik nieuw kocht in 2022. Dat is een groot deel van mijn negatieve impact. Deze week was het tijd om te kijken naar de andere kant van de medaille. Vandaag lees je op mijn blog een artikel over al mijn positive impact in 2022 🌞. Je vind de link naar het artikel in de link in mijn bio. Afgelopen week verscheen er op mijn blog een artikel over alles wat ik nieuw heb gekocht in 2022. Eén ding op de lijst waren deze onderbroeken (een stuk of 20). En nu denk je misschien: waarom zou je in één keer zoveel onderbroeken kopen? Op 31 december, nog net op de valreep in 2022, kwam er een video online op mijn Youtube-kanaal over voedselcoöperaties. Ik denk namelijk dat voedselcoöperaties ons voedselsysteem democratischer en eerlijker kunnen maken 🥦.

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